This is a practical and reasonable book about the virtue of honor and how it affects your children’s attitudes and behavior. Honor is acting and talking in a manner that pleases others, even when they are not around. Honor considers the needs of others, not just your own. It reflects the heart of God and glorifies His name.
Scott Turansky reminds parents that it is important for children to learn to give up their agendas and follow instructions...and, yes, even when they don’t want to. Turansky advises that children who haven’t learned how to obey should be given fewer choices. Obedience does not have to hinge on understanding, but it is what the Lord commands(Ephesians 6:1).
The authors coach parents in teaching their children healthy dialogue such as what they refer to as the “Wise Appeal.” The Wise Appeal says, “I understand that you want me to…because…But I have a problem with that because…Could I please…?” It is practical application that makes this book so helpful even after reading a few chapters.
Here are some examples of the practical ideas you will find in this book:
- End each day on a positive note with your children
- Teach your children to treat people as special. For example, how people are greeted when they come in the door is very important. The first thing they see and hear is an opportunity to show honor.
- Teach children to do more than what’s expected in what they have been asked to do.
- Deal with the bad attitudes. Discipline them for attitude problems not just behavior.
- Teach them to listen to others with both eyes.
- Model it...Be what you want them to be.
- Appeal to their conscience. Tell your children how God might feel when they sin.
This book emphasizes that honor-based solutions within your family are a reflection of the Lord and provide opportunities to display and express love to others.
“By this, all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
John 13:35
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